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UPCOMING EVENTS AND APPEARANCES (in reverse calendar order):


MONDAY, JULY 20, 2015

The podcast of my extended “Tangentially Speaking” conversation with Chrstopher Ryan (author of Sex at Dawn) is now posted on his podcast site at

It was great to meet Chris in Portland and talk about a wide variety of topics (neither all about sex nor all about my book, This Thing We Call Sex, though both of those are there as well) as we sat in a neighborhood park. Chris is a fascinating man and a delightful interviewer.


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SUNDAY, JULY 5, 2015, 12:00-2:00 pm

Radio interview on Lilycat and Stuff with Melinda Adams.

Podcast of the interview is at


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SUNDAY, JUNE 21, 7:30 pm

Book signing, slide presentation, and talk about my experience at’s Public Disgrace shoots. Seattle. Hosted by Max Cameron.


Humor, Tenderness, Absurdity, Intensity: The Intimate
A Narrated slide show with David Steinberg


Sunday, June 21, 2015, 7:30 pm
Max Cameron’s home in Seattle (exact address provided after you register)
$25. Pre-registration required.
Tickets at
More information at

7:30pm  Doors open, meet and greet.  Beverages and light snacks will be provided.
8:00pm  Slide show and talk.
9:00pm  Art and book sales, signings, a chance to chat.

My good friend Max Cameron is hosting this evening event, where I’ll be showing photos and talking about my experiences at over 30 of‘s Public Disgrace filmings.

Since 2009, I have been taking still photographs during video shoots at – primarily at Public Disgrace shoots directed by Princess Donna Dolore. Much of what I have found there – intimacy, tenderness, attention to detail, deep emotional connections – is not what you might expect from a BDSM porn shoot. These qualities, together with equally remarkable qualities of humor, playfulness, intensity, and absurdity, make these shoots wonderful displays of human emotion ripe for picking with my camera.

Sometimes I shoot the “action” that will become the focus of the videos being produced at the shoots. But it’s the emotions, connections, and random moments that occur on the fringes of the shoots that interest me the most – unexpected revelations that occur when people forget about the cameras, conversations and sexual play between scenes, the facial expressions of people in the audience, moments of reflection or casual flirtation within the circus generated by producing intense BDSM video for a mass audience. These unaffected moments, combined with the power of deep connection between dedicated dominants and submissives, put a feast of raw humanity on display – a rare chance to capture the intimacy, vulnerability, power, and joy that lie at the heart of sexual experience.

At this informal evening event I will show a selection of favorite images that document the unique, intense, crazy, and loveable world of and Public Disgrace, and talk about the particular culture of this world of BDSM porn production. I will also have copies of my books for sale, including my latest book, This Thing We Call Sex: A Radically Sensible Look at Sex in America.

Please come join us.

More information at event listing:

(Max Cameron offers workshops and private instruction on a wide variety of BDSM techniques, including bondage, d/s, impact toys, piercing, and general topping skills,


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MONDAY, JUNE 8, 2015, 7:00-8:00 pm

Radio interview with Dr. Patti Britton and Dr. Robert Dunlap. Podcast is at

A wide-ranging interview of sexual topics and discussion of my book, This Thing We Call Sex.


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WEDNESDAY, MAY 13, 7:30-9:30 pm

Reading of excerpts from This Thing We Call Sex, and book signing, Van Nuys, California. Information from Leanna Wolfe,

I’m pleased to be reading from my new book, This Thing We Call Sex, and speaking about sex trafficking and the politics of prostitution, in Van Nuys, Wednesday night, May 13, 7:30 pm, at a “Sex, Culture and Society Salon” hosted by Leanna Wolfe. My partner, Kim Mears, will also demonstrate InJoyUs, a remarkable new sex product. Signed copies of This Thing We Call Sex, as well as several of my other books, will be available for purchase. Please come join us.

Sex, Culture and Society Salon

Wednesday May 13

Doors Open – 7:30 PM for Potluck Dinner

Please bring  food & drink to share

Program Begins at 8 PM

La Casa de Pensamiento Libre (Home of Leanna Wolfe)

14923 Marlin Place – Van Nuys, CA 91405
(End of the cul-de-sac between 14922 and 14927 Marlin Place)
(818) 510-0225

 $5 Suggested Donation

If you have never been to La Casa de Pensamiento Libre in Van Nuys, please do not park on the driveway, block the entrance to the driveway or any neighbors’ driveways.  You are welcome to pull in to drop off people who are mobility impaired as well as bulky items.  If you are allergy sensitive, please note that we have three dog and two cats.


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TUESDAY, MAY 12, 2015, 3:00-4:00 pm

Second installment of conversation with Diana Wiley on her radio show “Love, Lust, and Laughter.” Myths of Monogamy, This Thing We Call Sex, and more. To listen go to


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SATURDAY, APRIL 25, 2:00-3:00 pm

Reading of excerpts from This Thing We Call Sex at the Seattle Erotic Art Festival, followed by book signing. Reading on the main stage from 2:00-2:30; book signing off stage from 2:30-3:00. More information at

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TUESDAY, APRIL 12, 2015, 3:00-4:00 pm

First installment of conversation with Diana Wiley on her radio show “Love, Lust, and Laughter.” Myths of Monogamy, This Thing We Call Sex, and more. To listen go to

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Workshop: 7:30-8:30 pm. $10. Reading and book signing: 8:30-9:30 pm. Free.

During the workshop I will give my perspective on current topics related to sex and gender, including hysteria and misrepresentation related to sex trafficking; consequences of the tipping point in national attitudes toward same-sex marriage; new strategies in dealing with sexual assaults on college campuses; the right-wing backlash against transgender people; and the ongoing movement for sex worker rights.

During the second hour, I will talk about how This Thing We Call Sex came into being and read a variety of excerpts including stories, poems, and reflections. Signed copies of the book will be available for purchase.

More information at

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The Center for Sex and Culture is hosting a reading and book signing for This Thing We Call Sex on Sunday, March 15, 7:30-9:30 pm. I will talk about how the book came into being and read a variety of excerpts including stories, poems, and reflections. Signed copies of the book will be available for purchase. More information at


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My new book of writings, This Thing We Call Sex: A Radically Sensible Look at Sex in America, was published by Booktrope on March 13, 2015. For This Thing We Call Sex, I have re-edited the best and most relevant of my Comes Naturally columns and other writings, and added several previously unpublished  pieces, 40 of my fine art couples photos, and several poems.

Sometimes whimsical, sometimes philosophical, unapologetically political, and revealingly personal, This Thing We Call Sex documents the American sexual landscape from teenage sexuality to Viagra, swingers’ parties to erotic spirituality, lap dancing to women’s sexual liberation, fine art sexual photography to pornography, homophobia to BDSM — visiting sexual worlds that include erotic writer Marco Vassi, the Marquis de Sade, 19th-century feminist Victoria Woodhull, erotic photographer Jan Saudek, and porn producer  The book calls on readers to question their sexual assumptions and fears, and to embrace sex as an opportunity for intimacy, self-understanding, and psychic adventure.

For more information, or to order the book, click here.



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